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What Your Child’s Name Says About You: My Response

Posted on: January 12, 2012

“If your child has an unusual name, you crave the spotlight.”
This can be true, or maybe you just don’t want your child to be the 5th Aiden in his class. There’s plenty of nice unusual names out there.

“If your child has an old-fashioned name, you’re on the conservative side.”
Again, I think I disagree. I prefer old fashioned names, and I’m far from conservative. I like them because they have a lot of history, great etymology, famous bearers, etc.

“If you choose a creative spelling, you dare to be different.”
No, I think you’re just burdening your child with a name that will forever be misspelled and mispronounced. If you want to be different, choose a name that isn’t in the top 100, 500, or 1000.

“If you choose a family name, you’re sentimental.”
Perhaps this is true, as you’re honoring family which is quite sentimental. Our first daughter will have the mn of Evelyn after my great aunt (wonderful woman, so many great memories with her, plus I love the name!) & SO’s grandmother (she passed away while his mother was pregnant with him.) and we’re even thinking of naming a 2nd girl Matilda Kay. Matilda is again after a great aunt (and it’s also old fashioned!), I never met this one but my father knew and adored her and since he wants me to name a child after him, David, and I can’t picture a son named David, I think Matilda (I also like it) would suffice. Kay is after my SO’s sister macKAYla & niece KAYanna.

“A pop culture name means you’re looking for a confidence boost.”
It certainly is a possibility. They reference Twilight names there, and I must say I adore Edward, Jasper, Emmett, Rosalie, Isabella AND Alice! I dislike Twilight but the names are fantastic. I have another name I adore, a certain singer’s name, (which I won’t mention because I’m hoping it doesn’t get popular whatsoever, lol) which will probably be thought of as a fan’s craze.. While I love her music, it’s been on our list since before we, or most people, ever heard of her. My SO actually suggested it and it’s a play on a male character’s name in one of his favorite games.

“If you name your child after a destination, you’re adventurous.”
Maybe this is why I don’t like many place names? I’m one of those “weirdos” who have no interest in travelling the world 😛

“If you go with a unisex name, you focus on success.”
I dislike that they included Dakota (shouldn’t be used on a baby whatsoever imho, it’s a tribe!), Avery (it’s my SO’s mn, hopefully will be our son’s mn, and it’s masculine imho) & Riley (ALL boy imho) in there. Then again, most unisex names are just male names people use on girls anyway. I definitely don’t think it’s focused on “success” I think it’s more focused on believing girls need a strong name in society to be thought of as more than just delicate and girly.

Speaking about unisex names:
“Many parents of girls do this because they think it will give her an advantage later on in life,” says Korwitts. “Those names have a more assertive, aggressive quality they feel will make her more successful as she grows up.” 
I think they have a more masculine quality. Nothing wrong with feminine names, there are plenty of assertive FEMININE names out there.

“But unisex names can have the opposite effect in the technology age. “People are communicating more and more over email and the Internet, and others can’t tell whether they’re talking to a man or a woman,” explains Korwitts. “Many people with unisex names eventually alter it so that it’s clear which gender they are.” 
I’ve seen this happen, actually. My name (Sasha) has been mistaken as a boys name plenty of times, especially by people whom are Russian. Makes sense seeing as it’s generally a nickname for Aleksandr in Russia. (Sasha is a Russian name altogether)

What do YOU think? If you want to read the whole article, here’s the link:
http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/childs-name-says-190200111.html

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2 Responses to "What Your Child’s Name Says About You: My Response"

For the most part, I don’t agree with this article. I do agree that the names you give children can reflect on you, but I don’t think they came to all the right conclusions – at least not universally.

“If your child has an unusual name, you crave the spotlight.”
I think that in rare cases, this can be true, but for the most part I disagree. I like unusual names, but it’s just because I don’t like the sound of most of the common and traditional / old-fashioned names. Also, I’m a fantasy author, so I enjoy unique names. I don’t crave the spotlight – in fact, I’d much rather avoid it.

“If your child has an old-fashioned name, you’re on the conservative side.”
I’m not super fond of most old-fashioned names, so I can’t give examples from my own tastes, but I do know a lot of people who like old-fashioned names who really aren’t conservative. So I’m going to have to disagree with this one as well.

“If you choose a creative spelling, you dare to be different.”
I partially agree with this one. See, people who dare to be different are probably more likely to use creative spellings. So, you using a creative spelling does say something about you “daring to be different.” The problem is, the creative spelling are “different” in a quite negative manner, not a positive one. They show that you’re willing to ruin a perfectly good name and sentence your child to a lifetime of correcting everyone on the spelling just so you can be different, and that’s not a good thing.

“If you choose a family name, you’re sentimental.”
I agree with this one, though there are going to be rare exceptions in motives.

“A pop culture name means you’re looking for a confidence boost.”
For the most part I agree with this one, especially when you make it blatantly obvious (like naming all of your children after characters in the Hunger Games or using an actor’s unusual last name so there’s no mistaking who the child is named for). The way they described it on the article made perfect sense to me. (P.S. I love a lot of the names in Twilight too, yet I really dislike Twilight.)

“If you name your child after a destination, you’re adventurous.”
I’m not sure about everyone, but this definitely is true for me ^.^ If I could, I would visit every place on earth! =D I really like most place names, but the sound of the place also has to do with whether I like it or not, so there may be other motives besides just being adventurous.

“If you go with a unisex name, you focus on success.”
I don’t agree with this at all. Sometimes it could be like what you said, that, “it’s more focused on believing girls need a strong name in society to be thought of as more than just delicate and girly.” Another thing that could be motivating using unisex names (in the case of names that are truly unisex) is that it’s a great alternative for people who like the feel of masculine names on girls but don’t want to give her a boys’ name. Maybe some people like them because no matter the gender of the baby they can use the name they love because it’s unisex. There are tons of possible reasons for using a unisex name. I for one don’t believe a girl has to have a masculine name to succeed. That’s like saying women can’t do anything a man can, so you might as well give her a masculine or unisex name so people may think she’s good for something – all of which is totally false. For that reason, I definitely disagree with this one.

Though I don’t agree with most of these, it was an interesting article to read =)

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